I’ve spent a lot of my life loving people who didn’t love me back. There’s nothing special or unusually tragic about this. I’m just happy that part of my life is a closed chapter.
But it stays with you because it’s painful. These are some of the songs that carried me through those days as well as some more recent songs that have the same message.
Shooter Jennings, “All of This Could’ve Been Yours”
All of this would’ve been, all of this could’ve been yours…There is something so mournfully perfect about the way those lyrics are sung. I love the open lyrics “I had a cure for your disease, but you threw it away”.
Fauxliage, “Let it Go”
No, not that “Let it Go”. The name of this band irritates me, but the song is pretty. “I wonder if you wanted me like I wanted you” is a resonating lyric.
Robyn, “Dancing on My Own”
This is the worst feeling when you figure out your crush has a significant other. I distinctly remember being in that situation once and drinking a six-pack of grape Smirnoff to get over it. Which, you know, I did, mainly because then I was feeling physically ill.
The lyrics of this one are powerful. There are a ton of good covers for this song, too. “I want you to notice when I’m not around.”
Carolyn Dawn Johnson, “Complicated”
This one tells the classic story of falling for a friend. It was one of my first introductions into country music and her voice is lovely.
En Vogue, “Don’t Let Go”
So fun to sing along with! The girls from EV belt it out and they are pissed. They won’t be satisfied until VOWS are taken. (That escalated quickly…)
Rob Thomas, “This is How a Heart Breaks”
Why you gotta make it so hard on me? Good song for the gym, when you’re over your crying.
Of course, Taylor Swift (T Swizzle) has a lot of good unrequited love songs, and I’m sure I’ll think of a dozen more (better) songs after I publish this, but it’s a good start. I occasionally make playlists according to feeling, and I’ve definitely had rotating unrequited love playlists. I’ve been lucky enough to delete them since, but, oh, I’ve been there.